Relationship Counselling
Every relationship experiences challenges and disagreements. What is important is how you handle yourself. Whether you decide to stay together or split up is often a function of how you communicate in your relationship and how you have behaved in it.
Marriage is never the same for every couple. Often when there are fights between couples and they are undergoing stressful situations, the decisions made can be a reaction to the conflict and not appropriate to solving issues in the long term. Couples counselling is a good way to navigate this conflict and repair a fragile relationship. Studies have shown that relationship counselling can be an integral part of strengthening a relationship as well as a valuable tool during the family phase.
Relationship counselling can be extremely valuable to people who want to seek advice about the major concerns and problems they encounter in the course of their marriage. It can also provide practical pointers on handling situations with your partner and can help you see and hear each other in the midst of these challenges. Sad to say, the majority of couples wait until their relationship is under siege before they seek counselling. Most seek the help of a relationship counsellor only when the arguing and fighting are out of hand and they are in fear of losing the marriage. Ideally, relationship counselling should be done before the marriage.
The biggest issue of all can be when the couples’ problems are exacerbated by anger. Anger can undermine trust, create distance and shut down intimacy. When anger and conflict becomes a daily challenge it is time to consider looking for an individual counsellor who is experienced in anger management counselling.
We all experience anger in one form or another. At its most basic level anger is a survival mechanism which is hard-wired into all of us. When you get angry, your sympathetic nervous system causes certain biological and physiological changes to occur within your body. For example, the heart rate increases, blood pressure goes up, more adrenaline gets pumped into your body, and your hormones go out of control. In this sense, anger is a genetically-based response to a threatening situation. This can be a big challenge in a relationship when one partner gets easily triggered and becomes overwhelmed by their anger. Sometimes this is the main reason couples seek relationship counselling. After all, there is a big difference between using anger as survival tool when it is needed versus becoming angry for the smallest negative things that happen in your life. When the latter occurs, you will find that there is usually an underlying problem that causes you to quickly move from an irritation to an explosion. Exploring this in the safety of anger management counselling, you will identify these underlying triggers and begin to resolve the issues that are lying at the root of your anger.
For some people, the reason they become angry so easily could be due to something that happened in the past, like a traumatic experience. On the other hand, it is also possible to be born this way. Studies have shown that even newborn babies can vary from one to another when it comes to their emotional responses.
Before you embark on anger management counselling in Victoria, it is important to acknowledge that you have this problem, otherwise it becomes difficult to find solutions for emotional control issues. By working openly with a counsellor, you are helping yourself in ways that will benefit your relationship.
